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Help Illustrators! ...Am I going crazy?

3/20/2017

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Is it normal to spend a day with your characters and feel that they are company or... Am I just going crazy?

I have days where I spend long, uninterrupted hours climbing inside my picture books. Loppy and Curly have become like little friends to me. I feel like I know what they are thinking and what they are about to do. i have become so attached to these little creatures that they almost seem real to me, even though I know they are not!

Maybe it's because it is a series and I have spent loads of hours, days, months drawing them over and over and their little personalities have become real. Authors must feel like they know their characters after spending so much time with them in their imagination. Is it the same for us illustrators?

I love that we can remove ourselves from our everyday lives and be inside a book. They are the best days that make all the hard work seem so worthwhile.

I am interested to hear from other illustrators if they relate to what i am saying or am I going crazy?

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How to parent anxious behaviour...aaarghh!

3/10/2017

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​One of the most difficult components of anxiety to deal with in our kids is the behaviour that can go with it.
 
They might throw public tantrums, or refuse to talk to people, or fight a lot with other kids, or run and hide when family and friends come over, or cry a lot or cling a lot, or slam doors, or hit siblings, and so on and so on, aaarrrggghhh! (insert that crying face emoji).
 
Parenting an anxious child can be a no-win situation.  If we aren’t aware that anxiety is behind this behaviour we can get caught up in the ‘naughtiness’ of it, or the ‘embarrassment’ or the sheer exasperation of it!  Even if we are aware that anxiety is often behind this type of behaviour, we can feel all of the above!  And if we are aware that anxiety might be behind their display, we feel a crushing combo of empathy, out of control-ness and probably guilt!
 
What to do?!?! Well ideally, and I say ideally because I am a parent and I KNOW it is all well and good to have plans, but being able to follow them through all the time is another thing!  So, ideally, we work first of all on our PB at PB’ing.  That is, on our Personal Bests at PAUSING and BREATHNG. 
 
This makes all the difference between getting caught up and stuck in their behaviour, and taking a mental step back and observing what is going on.
 
In other words, PAUSING and BREATHING puts our brain in a better position to ‘respond’ as opposed to ‘react’.  When we have our abilities to respond it means we have more access to our abilities to remember they are probably worried about something and their behaviour is an offshoot of that.  When we are in reaction mode we are more under the influence of our strong emotions and that’s when we say and do things that, in calmer moments are against how we want to be as a parent – those shame-filled, guilt-laden moments (insert that crying face emoji again).
 
It takes time and practice though.  We might have good intentions to pause and breathe so we can respond rather than react, but we might be up against a whole heap of factors:  our genes, our own parenting, our own anxiety, multiple stressors, our children’s’ temperaments, sibling interaction, etc, etc. 
 
It’s a tough gig! 
 
What can help toward our PB in PB’ing?  Imagining our misbehaving little cherubs as they were when they were tiny vulnerable little babies. It helps us tap into their ‘childness’ and remember that they are still learning how to be in this world. And when it comes to anxiety being the ‘emotional culprit’, that they are feeling overwhelmed, frightened and not sure how to handle it all.
 
Hope this is helpful! What have you found helpful?
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    Author-
    Lynn Jenkins 

    Lynn Jenkins is a clinical psychologist, author and mum of three. She is very passionate about providing education about the social and emotional needs of infants and young children, and writes regularly on these topics.

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    Illustrator-
    Kirrili Lonergan

    Kirrili Lonergan is a children's illustrator and mother of four. She loves designing logos and creating art for children. Her main passion is children's books. She is also the Vice President of the CBCA Newcastle Sub-branch.

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